What makes a person your best friend, buddy, pal, BFF? This weekend Betsy and Leah came to visit me. We're all BFFs, my best friends forever! I don't get to see these girls all that often. We probably hang out as a complete trio 2 to 4 times a year. We became sisters many years ago through sorority and at the time I did not realize that these girls would become the closest I've ever had to real sisters. While hanging out with them this weekend, I got to thinking about what makes our friendship so special. Why do I love these girls as much as I do? When I am with these girls I am always comfortable with who I am. They know the best of me and the worst of me and yet they love me anyway. We make fun of each other but rarely are feelings hurt. I can be myself around them and I never feel the need to impress. They are my biggest admirers and cheerleaders.
I have no problem describing myself as I really am and when looking at this list it's hard to imagine why anyone would want be my friend. I am bossy, impatient, demanding and egotistical, yet they love me anyway. I hate to be wrong, I am overly competative, and like to give a lot of sh** but can barely take it, yet they love me anway. I can be moody and ridiculously stubborn. Yet, they love me anyway. I know that I am all these things and yet they only see the good in me. I know I can be myself b/c if I ever cross the line, I trust and know that they will put me in my place. And though I have a dominant personality, I always feel that we are equal because we have an unyielding mutual respect for each other. We each bring our talents and gifts to the group and we love each other the more for it. And finally, we laugh. We laugh at jokes, life, but mostly ourselves. I guess in the end my conclusion is this: Your true friends, your absolute best friends, your BFFs are the ones who love you for all that you are...not just despite your flaws, but because of them. They love you because that is who you are and they would never want anything less. I consider myself so blessed to have two BFFs that always love me anyway.
2 comments:
That's awesome that you've found people to keep in your life like that. I had a TON of fun with you girls this weekend. The most fun I've had in a really long time actually. Thanks for the "Trio Experience". B
i know what you mean, deeks. it's not dissimilar to the special aura around a relationship between a gay man and woman, when they're friends. it's so uncanny. like around you, i can be the moodiest baby, and the most negative person ever...but then you also realise i am the kindest soul with whom you've connected, and the wisest person, and very positive. with friendship, you see my light and my dark, and still find me on the wavelength...and accept me. thank you.
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