Danielle the fatalist?

Do you believe in fatalism? For some reason this concept is one that seems to come up for all of us from time to time and it's making a prominent showing in my life at the moment.

fa·tal·ism n
1. the philosophical doctrine holding that all events are fated to happen and that human beings cannot therefore change their destinies
2. the belief that people are powerless against fate, or the attitude of resignation and passivity that sometimes results from this belief

Lately I find myself asking if fatalism really even exists or is it something we just tell ourselves to make us feel better about a situation we feel is out of our control. As many of you know I recently broke up with my latest boyfriend and we, too, said upon our parting "if it's meant to be, it is meant to be." But is it? If it was going to happen then wouldn't it be something that we made happen? I guess part of me is what you would call a "fate skeptic." Frankly, I just don't see it at least when it comes to relationships where we so often hear these words. Now, I certainly believe there are many factors that are out of our control, but that does not mean that I am going to resign myself to a powerless attitude of passivity allowing life to to just go on as it is so-called "meant to be." No, I'm going to take control. As for the relationship front, I'm going to take control by letting go. As for life in general, I make the decisions of where I want to go and what I want to do and how I handle myself when things take a sharp turn. I mean, God didn't put us on this Earth to have things turn out just as we always want or expect them to. When something "goes wrong" we should not fool ourselves into thinking that this is what is meant to happen and we must therefore live with the result, instead we should see it as an opportunity-an opportunity to take a new path and embrace more of the life that God has given us. As FSD says in his book THE NEAR SIDE OF JORDAN "God's call to us is an invitation into life as it is." And while this sentiment is indeed comforting and sounds a bit fatalistic I must add that "life as it is" is not just what happens that is beyond our control, but how we handle that situation and take control of it for ourselves. This goes for everything from relationships to life in general. The name of the game is to have faith b/c if you do you will never be alone. I know so many people who have lost that faith b/c they have been given a "bad hand" in life. But in the end you will not be judged by how you feel about your situation, but by your actions. Keep faith, take control. That is what you should do instead of leaving it entirely up to fate. I guess I'm not sure where this leaves me on the fatalist front then. I seem to show sentiments leaning towards both sides. I guess that leaves me a "moderate fatalist-fate skeptic" combo of some sort. I mean, I guess if I'm meant to be a fatalist one day, I'll become one right? Lol, just kidding- for now I'm going to stick with my own label above-b/c I can.